Saturday, December 29, 2012

Sommer J's Relaxed to Natural Journey!

I wasn't sure when I cut all my hair off after having a micro braids in WAY too long whether I was going to stay natural. My impatience and watching many many "BIG CHOP" you tube videos inspired me to chop my hair off. I really wanted to go natural because my hair was thinning badly, it would stop growing after a certain length. Perhaps because I didn't put a lot of TLC into my hair. Back when I was in college, I'd keep my hair braided up under a bandanna and my hair grew so fast and very long. Then I let little girls play in it along with the stress of another transition in my life (moving out on my own -forcibly) and then joining the military feeling like I let everyone down because of my declining college grades was NOT good for my hair one bit. I don't have any pictures from that time, but I was known as the "the tall girl with long pretty hair" sometimes it was "tall girl with pretty curly hair" when I'd stretch my relaxers and wear braid outs or wash n goes (on relaxed hair!). I then joined the military, my hairdresser begged me to go natural years ago, but i thought it would be too much work, and I had to look neat and tight as a military member. Oh how uneducated I def was. From then on my hair went from bad to worse. With my multiple pregnancies, busy life, bad coloring jobs by my self, bad perms, bad weaves, my poor hair got no love. Even when I thought I was trying. I really was. Lets begin!


This is me about 2 weeks after delivering my youngest. I had lots of braid styles the months prior to his birth. It grew thicker, not much longer. However....

We moved a few weeks later and transitioning, getting settled in our new life, my hair's health definitely took a toll

I looked to weaves to help retain length. That didn't work. The hairstylist criticized my hair's health with no advice. and the weaves never looked good after a couple weeks

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2nd weave

Hats were my friend...particularly this wool hat in all climates. 

I didn't want to go back to the same salon so i removed the sew in myself. Hoping to see some length I was sorely disappointed and cut my hair

Still very unhappy with my hair and my appearance I got a haircut. Hoping for a pixie cut, I didn't get one just a normal cut. It was cute for maybe a month

So then I went searching for hairdressers who did braids, preferably home visits as my husband was deployed. And thankfully I did! She did an amazing job! They were so tight not one braid fell out...not sure if that's good or bad, especially for a hair novice like myself

They started looking tired after 3 months, but I had no time and no help with my husband deployed so they were in my hair for 5 months!

I started removing them myself even went out for drinks with a friend. My trusty hat! LOL


BIG CHOP END OF OCTOBER 2011
Finally, I HAD IT! Watching you tube about natural hair journeys, a feat I nearly took on in'08 but chickened out. I considered be natural this time, but wasn't sure whether or not I would perm my hair in the next months. 

I didn't take many pics because i was very self conscious. That HAT again.


MONTH 1 November
Then the inevitable happened, my brother died. I didn't give a flip about my hair. When I went back to the states, my sister offered to braid my hair, a break and kind gesture i sorely needed at the time.

December
Low maintenance hair sorely needed during the holidays and grieving stages

January
Did an uneven cut on my braids. Was annoyed at its length ;-)

February
Hair is getting old

March
Debuted my hair to most of the world. Got a lot of compliments. This is a twist out btw 

April
I had these braids for a month in a half this is at the tail end lol.


June no pics from May. This is me and my Stepson and my littlest man!

 

I picked out the coils in July :-)

I straightened and colored in July. A bit of a disaster. but I deep conditioned like a champ



In August my hair started looking and feeling healthy again
Awesome wash n go!
My Curly Babies
This is a two day old twist out which I stretch using the multiple pineappling method. So much easier than twisting every single night!

September's shrinking wash n go

Going out on a date with the husband in October

Finally tried Naptural85's winter wash n go as i had some length and I loved the results! And my wash n go looked a lot more stretched than normal!

Twist out in Scotland cute styles didn't hold up while we were in the UK due to sooo much rain!

December in Switzerland I had a only the front with the twist out and the rest of my hair in twists with conditioner in a baggie under my beanie!
Same method in Austria. Only I had bantu knots! The front is a bantu knot out
FINALLY a two  day old wash n go side fro. Looks like my wash n goes are looking a bit longer!

I am not going to preach to anyone about going natural. I did this for me! Some days I dream of the a relaxer then I remember how limp and weak my hair was. My hair now fights back and will let me know if a style or product I am using is wack. This journey is perfect for ME. There are a lot of women who use relaxers and their hair is amazingly healthy. Women no matter what race, hair type you are, all your hair wants need is a little tender love and care. You will definitely see the results.
So happy to have support from my great family. Look for a video soon featuring me and my husband. Oooh boy


14 months natural and hopefully for the rest of my life :-)

20 comments:

  1. I've been natural on and off for 10 years now and have gone through just about every phase with my own hair, so I understand your journey completely. Your hair looks fabulous right now!

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  2. Loved reading about your journey & seeing pictures. I've been "fully natural" for a year now. I had my hair pressed every two weeks for about 15 years prior to that. Natural is still a lot of work, but it's much better for my active/healthy lifestyle.

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  3. What a journey your hair has been on! Enjoy the natural-it is lovely.

    Happy New Year.

    Velva

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  4. Thanks ladies!!! Yes natural is a lot if work!!! I enjoy Abington some crazy looking twists kept undergrads from time to time :-)

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  5. This was awesome. I'm coming up on my one year anniversary in January. I've been relaxer-free for 18 months. I haven't worn my hair natural yet...I wanted to wait until the year mark. I plan on adding highlights and playing around with different styles. I'm going to flat iron it once I hit the 18 month mark.

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  6. Looking forward to reading about itTina!!!!!

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  7. I started transitioning Jan 2010 and cut off all my relaxed ends Jan 2011. Best decision for my hair. It loves being natural!

    You look amazing! I love your hair!

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  8. I mean transitioned Jan 2011 and cut off my relaxed ends Jan 2012 :)

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  9. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I enjoyed reading about.yoir journey. I have been natural since 2006 and I am absolutely loving it. I take much better care of my hair.

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  10. Thank you ladie!! Faith your hair is gorgeous! Love seeing pics of it! So happy your transitioning went well! Thanks Katherine! I, too, take better care of my natural hair then when it was relaxed!!! Welcome!

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  11. what a story! i started following your blog around the time you straightened and colored in July. it's so awesome how far you have come and i love the way it looks now! when i grew up, i had this long, big hair that i hated...i wanted straight hair so badly and when i was a teen i convinced my mom that i wanted a perm. now, i'm perm free for a year now and i am loving it! when i want to straighten my naturally curly hair i just used a comb and turn the hairdryer on low. it seems to be working so far. i try not to use a flat iron as much as possible.
    well, i enjoy reading your post and glad to see your face on BLM! :)
    happy new year!

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  12. Enjoyed your story and I can definitely relate. Stress can really do some damage to your hair. My hair is really thick, it always has been and I'm sure it will always be. I had gone through a pretty difficult time and cut my hair where it barely sat on my shoulders. Then, after my son, my hair stylist encouraged me to go natural since I hadn't had a relaxer in about 3 months. It was one of the best decisions I could have made.

    I still have a few days where my hair and I are not on good terms, but I've learned to let it do it's own thing. (My hair really has a personality of its own) I'm aiming for length waist hair, but my ultimate goal is that it continues to stay healthy and strong.

    I loved your pictures. I actually thought you looked gorgeous regardless of your hairstyles.

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  13. Aww thanks Carla! Your hair is GORGEOUS! One of the first things I noticed about you when I visited your blog!!! I am sure you will reach waist length in no time! I don't have any particular hair goals, just keeping this crazy on top of my head as healthy as possible. When it was in the awkward phase I was longing for length, now that it's at a semi-normal state transitioning towards another awkward phase..rrrrr I am ok with it lol

    THanks Morgan! I like your technique for straightening your curls! So happy you are happy as a natural and thanks for following!

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  14. A terrific view of the Sommer we all know...do we know as you keep changing your hair! Love all the styles!

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  16. I did the big chop in February and it was hard, and some days I still yearn for my hair as it was. But my hair is healthier and stronger but I am still self conscious of it and still exploring new products to keep it looking good.

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  17. I love your hair journey. You are so beautiful, you should model.

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  19. Hello Summer, just stumbled upon your Blog. Was wondering how is your natural hair journey going.
    I went natural last year in August and my sister two weeks ago.
    We just started a blog for naturals in germany, since I had nobody to guide me with advice.
    This is my story why I returned natural. Its in german.

    http://curlycrowns.blogspot.de/2013/07/returning-natural-adeb.html

    Keep it Curly and be blessed.
    Love Buki

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  20. Oh so sorry for misspelling your name, dear Sommer. I apologize.

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